Feelings of guilt are natural states that people experience throughout their lives. However, it is the way they are perceived that determines emotional development. If you constantly dwell on and blame yourself instead of moving forward with new experiences, the feeling of guilt and associated feelings of guilt can be very destructive and crippling to a person’s life. What are feelings of guilt, and how can we get rid of them? Keep reading!
WHAT IS REMORSE?
Feelings of guilt are a type of anxiety that stems from the feeling that you have done something wrong. However, people perceive them differently – some consider feelings of guilt to be a constructive indicator, a kind of moral compass that shows them what they did wrong and how to act correctly. Others believe that feelings of guilt are nothing more than a social construct that arose from upbringing in a specific cultural and social structure.
Guilt after a breakup
A breakup is a painful moment in everyone’s life. Everyone has the right to experience their own grief and emotions in their own way. It is quite normal that in this case, anger, sorrow, bitterness, and other extreme emotions arise.
Feelings of guilt may also arise. After a breakup, a person may begin to blame themselves for what happened. They keep going through new scenarios in their head in which they correct what they think needs to be improved. They may arise regardless of who initiated the breakup.
It can have a positive aspect, but just as often, it can turn into a serious, paralyzing problem that prevents you from moving forward.
How to deal with such feelings of guilt? The most important thing is to realize that sometimes a breakup is the best option. This will also help you understand psychotherapy, which will allow you to realize this.
Guilt after betrayal
Betrayal is the ultimate trampling of your partner’s trust, often likened to a stab in the heart. Whether it is physical or emotional betrayal, it always hurts and tears your heart apart.
The person who betrayed may feel very bad about this fact, eventually losing the trust of someone who trusted them and thus destroying common ideals. Many people who have betrayed try to deal with their guilt by “bribing” their partners with expensive gifts.
However, this is not the right way to silence guilt. It is simple bribery that will not be effective in the long run. To truly get rid of guilt, you need to confront the problem and understand the causes, thereby eliminating the possibility of further betrayal.
HOW CAN I GET RID OF GUILT?
Fighting guilt is not an easy task. First of all, you must accept what happened – you cannot turn back time, so it makes no sense to dwell on it anymore. However, don’t forget that you need to draw conclusions from what happened and subject yourself to appropriate reflection so that the situation does not repeat itself.
Admitting guilt can also be cleansing. Remember that in this case, the most important thing is the feelings and emotions of the person to whom you want to confess. You cannot take this confession lightly; it must be followed by a genuine desire to seek forgiveness and correct the wrongs you have caused.
Dealing with guilt alone is difficult – the situation is often complicated by the circumstances that led to the guilt. Time cannot be turned back, but many wrongs can be righted; you just need to accept the fact of what you did and start actively addressing this problem.
Psychotherapy can help you overcome all of this. During therapy, you will learn to deal with your emotions and discover the mechanisms behind your problems, as well as what exactly causes your guilt.