Of course, there is no magic algorithm that would guarantee a long and happy future for a couple who haven’t decided to divorce. However, there are red flags that can indicate that the relationship is not permanent. It’s good to point them out in advance
1.FINANCIAL DISAGREEMENTS
Differences in budget and the question of whether finances will be shared or separate are common traps for couples transitioning from the romantic dating phase to living together. For example, it may be revealed that one partner is prone to debt and wasteful spending. If this situation cannot be managed through discussion with the intention of finding a compromise, it can lead to a breakup.
2.WOMEN’S SUCCESS
If a woman earns more than a man, the likelihood of divorce increases. Despite social changes, men still consider themselves providers and subconsciously fear women’s dominance in this area.
What can a woman do in this situation? Nothing. If it scares the partner and negatively affects the relationship’s well-being, it may simply not be the right person.
3.PARENTS’ DIVORCE
If your parents are divorced, the likelihood that you will follow in their footsteps approaches 60%. So why not use this information to your advantage and not repeat their mistakes?
Especially be cautious when choosing a person with whom you plan to have a relationship, and try to resolve conflicts before they reach the point where you become strangers.
4.LACK OF SEXUAL LIFE
Of course, as we age, the sexual activity we had at the beginning of the relationship weakens, but it is an emotionally important part of the relationship that strengthens it. If this component disappears, the relationship weakens, and other problems can arise in a chain reaction.
5.DIFFERENT SOCIAL CIRCLES
We tend to think that opposites attract, and that often holds true when it comes to different psychotypes. In such cases, partners complement each other and even learn skills that their own character doesn’t allow them to possess.
At the same time, people from different social worlds may have different religious and political views, education, and when the relationship loses its initial romantic passion, the couple finds themselves faced with the fact that they are hardly ready to understand and accept each other.
6.EARLY MARRIAGES
There are couples who met at a young age and have carried their feelings and ability to grow together over the years. Such examples are rare because from the age of twenty to forty, we usually undergo radical changes. Different views on life, plans, and dreams can forever separate people.
7.INABILITY TO COMPROMISE
Even close relationships involve the emergence of conflicting situations. What’s important is how we handle disputes, whether we think about the well-being of our union in the moment or just pursue our own interests. In anger, we can say many words that hurt our loved ones.
The position of attack can help achieve the desired result in the current conflict, but at the cost of gradually losing the support and understanding of the partner.
8.UNWILLINGNESS TO FORGIVE
Forgiveness means being able to let go of your wound, otherwise its shadow remains alive between you. You may have to talk more deeply with your partner about your feelings. It will be a difficult conversation, but necessary to get rid of the rust that destroys relationships.