If you dream of finding your “other half”, but have been alone for many years, it may seem that this is your destiny. However, most likely, the matter is not in fate, but in your actions, outlook on life or psychological attitudes.
1. DEPTH OF YOUR SOUL YOU DON’T WANT A RELATIONSHIP
In fact, you are accustomed to loneliness, to the fact that you are responsible only for yourself and you do not need to report to anyone or take care of anyone. You don’t want to burden yourself with the obligations and responsibilities that a close relationship inevitably comes with.
2. YOUR STANDARDS ARE TOO HIGH
Instead of showing patience and trying to get to know a person more deeply, from different sides and in different situations, you “at the entrance” dismiss everyone who, in your opinion, is somehow dressed differently, behaves incorrectly, or is not educated enough … The list is long. Don’t expect your first meeting with “the one” to be marked by fireworks and cherubs playing harps – it takes tolerance and time for love and affection to emerge.
3. YOU DON’T KNOW WHO YOU REALLY WANT
And that’s why you keep meeting the wrong people.
4. YOU ARE TOO UNAVAILABLE
Even if you meet the “right” person, you are unable to establish contact because you are constantly busy with something or someone else – for example, the problems of girlfriends or friends, work, helping relatives. Perhaps with this excessive workload you are drowning out the fear of yourself and the fact that failure awaits you again on the personal front.
5. YOU GIVE UP TOO EASILY
Real life relationship building is very different from what is shown in TV shows and rom-coms. This is a job that requires dedication and patience.
6. YOU DON’T WANT TO CHANGE
You may have flaws that make being intimate with you too difficult, but you believe that people have an obligation to accept you for who you are. They don’t have to.
7. YOU CONSIDER YOURSELF UNWORTHY OF A GOOD ATTITUDE
Perhaps somewhere in the depths of your soul – you don’t admit it to yourself. In this case, you have a direct path to a psychotherapist.
8. YOU ARE LIVING IN THE WRONG SPACE
This may be a place or social circle where your opportunities to meet your person are very limited – there are simply no people around who would suit you in their values, outlook, and personal qualities.
9. YOU’RE AFRAID OF RELATIONSHIP RISKS
You are afraid to take on responsibility and obligations, you are afraid that you will be abandoned.
10. YOU’RE TOO DESPERATE TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP
People sense this and it turns them away from you. Remember that loneliness is not at all synonymous with an unhappy, inferior, miserable life. Relax, enjoy life and it is quite possible that the situation will change for the better.